My Daughter, the Jedi.

A long time ago in a galaxy far, far away (1983, Chester Odeon to be precise) my Mum took me to see Return of the Jedi and a life long love affair was born. It captured my imagination in a way that nothing previously had, and paved the way for a childhood spent bombing around our house, garden and farm with my prized toy Millennium Falcon pretending to be Han Solo.

So imagine my delight when my 6 year old Daughter Gwen arrived home from school one memorable day a few months back and asked me the question that every nerdy Dad wants to hear –  ‘Daddy, what’s StarWars?’

Yes, suddenly, completely out of the blue, Frozen is yesterday’s news. StarWars is well and truly where it’s at now.  And despite my long held love for the original trilogy, I haven’t pushed her into it at all, she’s discovered it for herself. According to Gwen, her ‘boyfriends’ (She has 6 of them, and yes you’re bloody right I worry) are crazy about it and talk of little else in the playground, and especially the new film, The Force Awakens.

In the latest incarnation of the movies, the lead role is a teenage girl – Rey, and it’s her who Gwen wants to be. So much so that she excitedly asked for a Rey outfit and a toy blue lightsaber for her birthday. So far, so completely 6 year old normal.

And then, the almost inevitable happened. She was told by someone at school that ‘STARWARS IS FOR BOYS.’ (Coincidently now she only has 5 boyfriends. HA!) But where does this come from? Parents? Grandparents? Retailers? The ridiculously outdated pink for girls/ blue for boys indoctrination that we’ve all been subjected to from birth?

A quick look at major toy store websites shows that they generally no longer separate toys by gender, so attitudes are beginning to change, if painfully slowly. Though on a recent, once in a blue moon visit to a local supermarket, I found myself having to shield my eyes from the wall of garish, bright pink crap at one end of the toy aisle, whilst at the opposite end all the cool action, adventure and building toys abided. The obvious message there being that little girls should be demure and pretty princesses, whilst little boys should be boisterous go-getters.

And it isn’t just toys either. I trawled for hours online in vain to find a t-shirt with Rey on it for Gwen’s birthday. There were thousands of cool ones available with male StarWars characters on, but the only ones I could find of Rey were pink (and cut for Girls; but that’s a whole other blog post). I don’t know about you, but I certainly don’t recall seeing Rey wearing pink when she was fighting against Kylo Ren and the galactic empire in The Force Awakens.

What does it matter what a child plays with or wears? Why have we brought gender into children’s play for so long? One of my 5 year old Godson’s favourite things is his toy kitchen, but he’s also an absolute whizz at building technic Lego.  Gwen’s 4 year old Sister Ffion is rarely seen without her tiara in her hair and fairy wand in her hand (even if she’s climbing a tree, or helping to feed a baby calf at the time). As long as their imaginations are fired, and they’re learning that’s ALL that matters.

Gwen and I have a Daddy/ Daughter dinner and movie date planned in December to see the new StarWars movie – Rogue One. Another female lead, and a new hero. And I can’t wait.

In her 6 years on this planet my funny, caring and kickass daughter has wanted at various times to be a doctor, farmer, vet, taxi driver, and firefighter. And now? Now she wants to be a Jedi. And you know what, that’s absolutely fine with me.

Because I’ll tell you what, the force is strong in my baby Girl.









Author: fatherandfarmer

Livestock & Arable Farmer, living in the sticks with a Wife & 4 young Daughters, trying to make sense of it all..

13 thoughts on “My Daughter, the Jedi.”

  1. Awesome! Let her dream all she wants. I’m the oldest of 4, a farm kid, that’s now become the farmer, all because my dad never told me I couldn’t. Keep on winning at the dad of girls thing!


    1. Unrelated – I started by reading “General Dean’s Story when I was 7 (maybe 5) I can pick out good writers from average writers a mile away and I must say you are kick ass.
      Related – I have no idea at all how I stumbled upon your posts but you need to know that while the Best Super Bowl Finish Ever was being played out (I have watched 45 of them) I asked myself if I would ever be able to watch a Super Bowl or Grey Cup (this year was the 101st Grey Cup in Canada) that had women on the roster. I work closely with some of the women in agriculture and I am delighted to see the extreme positive impact of their contributions.
      To your daughter I say “You Go Girl”
      best regards
      Jim – A leading edge farmer

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  2. Really enjoyed reading this and I have to agree with you. Just let children be themselves and make their own minds up about what they love to play with. There’s far to many pink things around that just look silly sometimes. It’s great that she loves Star Wars.

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  3. Love this Will. Well said. Can’t tell you how much the “XXX is for boys/girls” nonsense bothers me. Neep currently wants to be a “man who cuts down trees and has a beard” when she grows up – which is just fine with me.

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    1. Thanks Jude. I’d never noticed it until we had the Girls, now I can’t stop seeing it. Ha! Good for Neep! đŸ˜„


  4. Awesome! My son (5 1/2) hangs out with the girls in kindergarden, he was the only boy at a birthday party recently, him and 7 girls. I joke he’ll be a ladiesman one day … but in all seriousness it doesn’t matter who they play with as long as they have fun and respect each other. And just like I’ll expect all my kids to help in the barn with chores I also expect them to help in the house. Everyone can do everything.


    1. That’s great to hear. I hadn’t noticed these things until recently but now I see it everywhere. Up to us all to shout about how it’s not ok..


  5. Don’t get me started on pink toys. I think it’s even worse now than it was thirty years ago. Hope you manage to shelter your girls from at least some of the tide of pink and well done for trying!

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    1. Thank you. It was something I wasn’t particularly aware of until recently, but now I’ve noticed it and realised just how bad it is it annoys me so much..


  6. Greetings, I think Star Wars is a great remedy for the pink perils. And the knowledge that the love of Star Wars is passing from father to daughter is fantastic. Hope you enjoy Rogue One together.

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